Mar 01, 2016

Life-long Love Affairs

I’ve lived many lifetimes. Years ago I was the celebrant at a Crones Crowning, a celebration of four older women honouring their passage into the mature adulthood phase of their lives. Each spoke about their lives, and I learned a lot from these wise women. The most significant thing I heard that day was what one woman said about love. I’ll call her Betty (not her real name). Read more >

Feb 21, 2016

Eros, Sex, Love, Pleasure?  What will it be for you on Valentine’s Day?

Valentines Day is the celebration of love. Mostly this is focused on romantic love. Cupid with his arrow of Eros aims to pierce your heart. It conjures up a day full of pleasure – chocolate, flowers, candlelight dinners in fancy restaurants, and if all goes well, an intimate, sensuous interlude follows. All sounds good, right? But will there be true pleasure? Read more >

Jan 18, 2016

When you have had a drink of love …

I know the way you can get When you have not had a drink of love:* This opening line from Hafiz, the 4th century Persian poet, always slays me. When I don’t take a drink of love, life can become harder, threatening and brittle. But what happens when I do? Love is not only received from someone else. It also comes from doing what we love. I call this ‘creating love’. Read more >

Jan 04, 2016

Don’t think you can do it alone and there’s more pleasure with company!

Happy New Year to everyone! If you are like me the new year rolls in and you're primed to think about what you want to create in the months ahead. Maybe you set some goals that are dear to your heart. And then as you launch into the year and meet yourself! Maybe there's long standing habits or personality traits that you fear will derail you? Maybe what starts as excitement turns to overwhelm? For myself, I know one thing that really helps is to get support. Change is hard to do by yourself - maybe that's one of the habits that derails - the belief that you have to do it all by yourself. Read more >

Oct 13, 2015

Kindness + generosity = pleasure

The day before I left for Italy I was the celebrant at a wedding in Lanark County. The two women getting married asked me to speak about union, so I began with a poem by Rumi, The Gift. Read more >